When I hear the words “people pleaser” my gut reactions used to be, “of course”, “why not”, and “so what?” Then, I became a coach and I learned how being a people pleaser can drain us, take us out of our comfort zone and away from our values, get us in over our heads (with […]
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There is a toxic behavior that is invading our culture known as people-pleasing. I’ve coached countless people-pleasers over the years. In fact, I myself am a recovering people-pleaser. It’s a tendency I’ve worked hard on rewiring within myself, and so I enjoy helping others do the same. Through my experience, I’ve found most people-pleasers genuinely […]
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You’ve done everything right on the application, done everything they’ve asked for, you still got a rejection letter – or worse, no response at all. You answered everything perfectly in that interview, but they didn’t call you back for the next round. You’ve crossed every “t” and dotted every “i”, but recruiters and hiring managers […]
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Meet Bob: Just two years after being promoted to a coveted Vice President role at his organization he is struggling…big time. He is always tired, anxious, and overworked. Turnover on his team is way above norms. His manager has met with him twice in two months to express concern about his performance. Bob doesn’t understand […]
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The names and circumstances behind this case study have been altered to maintain client confidentiality. Can working with a coach help me move past my people-pleasing tendencies? What is your success rate in enabling your clients to set healthy boundaries? What are some examples of transformational stories that you’ve had in working with clients who […]
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“Once you told yourself a story enough times, it was so easy to keep on believing it.” Scott Westerfeld At a low point in my early 20s, one of my closest friends told me, “you might not be able to see it now, but please trust that everything will be alright in the end.” I […]
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I am a recovering people-pleaser. There was a time in my life when I was afraid to say no because I wanted everyone to like me. I avoided conflict to a fault. I didn’t speak up for myself. I subscribed to this toxic mindset because I saw this type of behavior equal success. Over the […]
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