When I hear the words “people pleaser” my gut reactions used to be, “of course”, “why not”, and “so what?” Then, I became a coach and I learned how being a people pleaser can drain us, take us out of our comfort zone and away from our values, get us in over our heads (with […]
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In my career, I’ve managed everyone from very young professionals straight out of school to seasoned leaders with decades of experience. Despite the wide variety in experience and background, I continue to find that almost all employees struggle with the same thing: proactive upward communication. This sounds buzz-wordy and like it’s just corporate jargon used […]
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There is a toxic behavior that is invading our culture known as people-pleasing. I’ve coached countless people-pleasers over the years. In fact, I myself am a recovering people-pleaser. It’s a tendency I’ve worked hard on rewiring within myself, and so I enjoy helping others do the same. Through my experience, I’ve found most people-pleasers genuinely […]
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You’ve done everything right on the application, done everything they’ve asked for, you still got a rejection letter – or worse, no response at all. You answered everything perfectly in that interview, but they didn’t call you back for the next round. You’ve crossed every “t” and dotted every “i”, but recruiters and hiring managers […]
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I just had my second miscarriage. I went in for my first OB appointment of the pregnancy at 8.5 weeks as is standard practice. With my daughter, we thought on that first scan that she looked like the cutest little gummy bear. While nervous given the last pregnancy didn’t work out, I was so excited […]
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Meet Bob: Just two years after being promoted to a coveted Vice President role at his organization he is struggling…big time. He is always tired, anxious, and overworked. Turnover on his team is way above norms. His manager has met with him twice in two months to express concern about his performance. Bob doesn’t understand […]
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I had a bit of time before a flight the other day so I stopped at a little airport café. Instead of tucked off to one side or another of the terminal, the café sat right in the middle of the hallway directly between gates on either side. One side of the café had a […]
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The names and circumstances behind this case study have been altered to maintain client confidentiality. Can working with a coach help me move past my people-pleasing tendencies? What is your success rate in enabling your clients to set healthy boundaries? What are some examples of transformational stories that you’ve had in working with clients who […]
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When my oldest son got cut from the 7th grade basketball team, it was devastating. He was a strong player and he simply felt that he was cut for reasons that had nothing to do with his performance. He could have simply given up the sport, but we spent some time coaching him through what […]
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My daughter turns two very soon. The classic “the days are long, but the years are short” is probably the truest parenting cliché of them all. The hours before bedtime often feel like an eternity (especially during nights like last night where she decided the tub was a fantastic place to poop), but these years […]
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This is a true story of when I lost my job due to a lay off and the feelings, emotions, struggles and challenges I experienced when faced with losing my role. (Spoiler alert- there is a happy ending to this story- thanks to my former employer, who chose to do the right thing for me […]
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Seeing all of the news of the layoffs at a variety of different companies over the past few weeks is heartbreaking. There are so many amazing professionals out there now ready to work, and are starting to think about next steps. It is absolutely OK not to be OK right now. Grieve, cry, scream, sleep […]
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